My wonderful friend Tara, a free spirit and always pursues what she loves and what feels right, something many are afraid to change but Tara since young age she knows life is more than a routine but happiness is hard to find, she never wishes to settle for the second best so she creates her life with colours and filled with love.
I met Tara in mid 20’s when I was at Anya Hindmarch, our friendship grew stronger after I left the UK as I was doing something I loved and Tara was a true fashion entrepreneur, she sat up a luxury pre-owned store chic and seek at her late twenties, her brand was supported by us all, I definitely shopped and offered her my beloved luxury items to sell. Everyone loved Tara’s business, she had a great store with beautiful interior set up in Notting Hill, perfect spot for perfect clientele, she did all this alone with very few help. Just when everything was going so well, Tara felt the universe was calling for something else. She literally closed everything and moved to the US and started her spiritual journey.
We kept in touch, we met irregularly here and there, mostly at her beautiful cosy villa in Ibiza. She’s one very few friends that my whole family adore. Tara started teaching yoga and launched her business in grief coaching which then really helped me through my father’s passing and she launched this course called Cafe Conscious which also kept my strong mind stronger to understand that wanting to being a mother and a family life instead of choosing to be career woman is not a failure. I just love how Tara always live the way she feels and not following the norm or rules, we only live once, happiness and health should rule instead of anything else, this is definitely something I share deeply with Tara.
Below is from my interview with Tara, read her beautifully answered questions. Our interview is also from my IGTV – link here.
KF: Please share your journey and how you were a female fashion entrepreneur then become this amazing spiritual coach and practice kundalini yoga?
Tara: I guess it’s quite a long story, but I’ll make it brief. I always felt like I wanted to do something to do with helping people, but I was young and I didn’t know what that was. After graduating with a degree in Sociology, I fell into fashion and it felt like the perfect escapism…. I spent a lot of time avoiding from my pain when I was younger.
It was actually around the time I started Chic&Seek that I began having therapy and really started to deal with my childhood trauma. In a way Chic&Seek was the beginning of my grief journey. I emulated my Mother by starting the business and towards the end started to question if I really wanted to be stressed, rushed and busy all the time for something I wasn’t passionate about?
My Mother died from Breast Cancer when she was 57 years old.
Everything started to feel out of alignment and I decided to take a three month sabbatical in New York. During that time I realised I hadn’t set foot in any clothes shops or read a single glossy magazine. I went on a spiritual journey in New York city of all places! Visiting temples, attending a Hay House workshops, which introduced me to the likes of Gabrielle Bernstein and Chris Karr, I was doing lots of Jivamukti Yoga, I quit drinking and really started to get fascinated about the Coaching and Self- Development industry. It was at the end of that time in NY I went to LA and found out about the Spiritual Psychology Masters Degree at the University of Santa Monica.
After graduating with the Spiritual Psychology Masters I went to India and did a Hatha Vinyasa teacher training in Goa, and later back in LA I was introduced to Kundalini Yoga through a mutual fashion friend of ours Caroline Legrand. We completed the teacher training in July 2019 with the most amazing teacher Sat Siri in the urban jungle of Hollywood – another unlikely place for zen spiritual development! I’ll probably find something in Vegas next!
KF: Personally I loved joining your Cafe Conscious group, it felt like an emotional detox each week! Please share more about this project, what does this group offer people?
Tara: Café Conscious has been evolving in my mind since 2013! My word, that’s rather an embarrassingly long time. Initially I saw it as a physical café, but having had the bricks and mortar fashion shop in London, I wanted to keep life simple and flexible!
I have always loved groups and been fascinated by the learnings and communities that they create.
Currently Café Conscious is an 11 week program introducing skills to cope with life. I have taken inspiration from Yoga, Spiritual Psychology, Grief work, 12 Step programs, the Alpha Course and my own life experiences.
I think you said it really well, it is like a weekly mini detox! It’s an education, but the real power is the emotional dump each person in the group gets to express. Sharing from a heart centered and authentic space detoxes us and knowing you are in a safe environment with no judgement allows everyone to express themselves in a way that you don’t normally get to do in day-to-day life.
I really believe we are all teachers for one another, so listening to each person gives us a tremendous amount of healing at the same time.
KF: When/ How did you realise healing power of grief?
Tara: In all the therapy I had over the years, not one coach or therapist ever said, ‘I think you are grieving.’ In my second year of studying my Masters in Spiritual Psychology I decided to base my thesis on death and grieving. What appears to be quite a depressing topic lit me up like a flame!
I was reading a lot of books and exploring a subject so deep and rich, it was incredibly rewarding for me. I thought, my god, of course I’ve had all these symptoms my entire life, I have been grieving and I didn’t even realise or understand it!!
Since a young age I have been fascinated by death, the afterlife, the purpose of my existence and wanting to talk about it, but never really knowing many people that were too interested to explore such subjects. Now I have great communities of friends who love this kind of conversation. But don’t worry, I still love surface level life as well. What shoes are you wearing right now?
KF: I can’t comprehend how difficult it must have been losing both your parents by the time you reached the age of 21. How has this impacted you and what strength have you gained through this awful pain?
Tara: My parent’s deaths have influenced me a lot. My Father died suddenly of a Heart Attack, he was 42 years old and I was 9. My Mother was widowed with three daughters to look after and she threw herself into work and a new relationship very quickly.
My Mother then got Breast Cancer and I cannot help wonder, if she had given herself the space to grieve whether she could have kept the cancer at bay. I wonder about my Father and his stress levels. We will never know, but I try and learn from those situations and choose differently for myself.
Sometimes I think it’s our fate, when our time is up, our time is up!
But I strongly believe that negative emotions, trauma, abuse, if this is not processed and released, it manifests in the body as toxins which cause illness or breakdowns.
Due to the early deaths of my parents, I have always been acutely aware of how short life can be. If I am not happy in a situation, I am not afraid to change it.
KF: Now you are being more spiritual and health conscious, do you still like fashion and fancy lifestyle? What makes you spend the most nowadays?
Tara: I still have a huge appreciation for design, beauty and quality, but it’s a relief not to have to dress up, put make-up on every day and wear heels! That said, I have kept a lot of heel’s that I never wear now, but I still love them!
I got really tired of people checking your watch, your bag, your shoes. It’s like urgh, come on, can we just cut past all this crap. I want to connect with people because of a genuine connection, not a, oh we’re in the same tribe because of the labels you dress in.
I actually bought a fake red Chanel handbag in Ibiza last month which has ‘Fake As Fuck’ written over it. I paid 100 Euro’s for it, so I was about as ripped off as buying a genuine Chanel, but I thought that was hilarious and it’s a great red. I think the ‘it’ bags have had their day and this was making a mockery of it.
I like to spend on experiences and in the past 5 years I have invested a lot in trainings and I will continue to do that. The next one I am doing is Teachings Prenatal & Postnatal. This course is a call to all women who care deeply about birthing sacredly, the birthing of ourselves and of our children. I am very excited to start this weekend and it is with the same teacher who trained me as a Kundalini Yoga Instructor.
KF: Please share your ritual of a busy week
Tara: I am currently teaching 4 Kundalini Yoga Classes, leading two Grief Groups and 2 Café Conscious Groups. I have been asked to teach within a corporate company and I have 2 private coaching clients. All my work is now being done through Zoom which I actually love and think it makes life very efficient. No more driving, tubing, parking and wasting precious time on travel. I probably still spend way too much time chatting to friends on the phone, some things never change! I am now living with my sister so getting to spend lots of precious time with my amazing nieces.
KF: A piece of advice for someone who feels lost.
Tara: I would say that if you feel lost you most likely don’t feel connected to yourself or the world around you. I would suggest exploring different Yoga classes, find a teacher you feel connected to. Maybe sign up to something like my Café Conscious group or Grief Group and learn more about navigating life. I think we can learn so much from deeply listening to one another which is why I love the group dynamic. If that feels a little too scary, begin some one-to-one therapy or coaching. Just remember, you do not need to do this alone! A problem shared is a problem halved.
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我20年代中期在安雅（Anya Hindmarch）遇到了塔拉（Tara），在我做自己喜歡的事情離開英國後，我們的友誼變得更加牢固，塔拉（Tara）當時二十多歲，是一位的時裝創業家，她開了一家時尚的二手店，她的店得到了我們所有人的支持，我也成為她的常客並向她出售了我心愛的奢侈品。每個人都喜歡塔拉（Tara）的生意，她在諾丁山（Notting Hill）擁有一家精美的飾店，這是完美客戶的理想場所，她獨自一人完成這一切，幾乎沒有幫助。就在一切進展順利的時候，塔拉感覺到宇宙在呼喚別的東西。她關閉了一切，然後搬到了美國，開始了她的精神之旅。
我母親57歲時死於乳腺癌。一切開始變得不協調，我決定在紐約放假三個月。在那段時間裡，我意識到自己沒有涉足任何服裝店，也沒有讀過任何有光澤的雜誌。我在紐約各地進行了一次精神之旅！參觀寺廟，參加干草屋講習班，向我介紹了加布里埃爾·伯恩斯坦（Gabrielle Bernstein）和克里斯·卡爾（Chris Karr）等人，我做了很多吉瓦穆克蒂瑜伽（Jivamukti Yoga），我戒酒，真正開始對教練和自我發展行業著迷。那時是在紐約結束時，我去了洛杉磯，在聖塔莫尼卡大學發現了精神心理學碩士學位。
在獲得精神心理學大師的文憑後，我去了印度，在果阿進行了Hatha Vinyasa老師培訓，後來回到洛杉磯，通過我們的Caroline Legrand的共同時尚朋友向我介紹了Kundalini Yoga。我們於2019年7月完成了在好萊塢城市叢林中最出色的老師Sat Siri的師資培訓-禪宗精神發展的另一個不太可能的地方！接下來，我可能會在拉斯維加斯找到一些東西！